Make up your mind people

I'm Just about as sick of this prop 8 shit as I can be. Under what circumstances can you block hetero's from marrying? NONE! So why do you get to anyones? The US gov't is set up like and equation: whatever you do on one side you must do the exact same on the other. Period. It doesn't take all this legal back and forth to see that this is bullshit.
And Im sick of it.
Wake me when its over
 Star

Awww, somebody likes my lil ol' blog...

SO I GOT NOMINATED. I WON'T WIN, BUT IM EXCITED NONETHELESS. SO VOTE FOR ME! EACH NOMINATION IS A VOTE
HERE'S THE LINK
GET TO IT! LOL

http://www.blackweblogawards.com

THANKS GUYS
STAR

I guess I missed the memo. AKA: Today's what the fuck news...

 
 So not only am I drug addict, I'm a sh*t eater too.
Ya'll don't want me to comment on this... 

¿Adora qué? El coño? chica adiós

DADT is not the biz...

found over at luvvdivine.tumblr.com

The Real L word, Huh? AKA: White privledge on deck.

Showtime has the Hot Nu--Nu for the lesbians. Again. And there's not a brown  face in sight. Again.

I'm so sick of this bullsh*t.

You mean to tell me that there aint not one (yeah you heard me right) brown woman in Los Angeles that would have fit into this cast.

Bullsh*t

MY WISH LIST...

Since I haven't gotten a birthday or Christmas present in 2 years (not including the Mercedes I bought myself), I thought I would put together this little wish list for you all. So listen up lurkers, followers, and anyone else who may want to take pity on me *cue violins*.


1 Christian Louboutin Greissimo Pump size 8.5 9
2 new rims for the new whip (stock only, no hood ish for my baby)
3 amex gift cards (in any amount over $100)
4 target gift cards (in any amount over $30)
5 MAC Book pro
6 purple ipod
7 purple ipod
8 purple ipod
9 purple ipod
10PURPLE F*CKING IPOD

Feel free to start anywhere on the list. 

KAYTHNXBYE


*Twinkle*

HEY HEY HEY

this

thats all

*STAR*

Locked and Loaded... You know u miss it

i am without a doubt, a ride or die girl. but dont do no f*ck sh*t in front of me now that I have kids.

after "the incident" i realized who my associates where. after I healed, i  realized who the wolves in sheep's clothing where. i see you

the woman i treated the absolute worst, is the person who loves me the absolute most. that b*tch is ride or die.

relationships are not for everyone. unfortunately, those people are hella sexy and hella charismatic. and so good in bed.fml

stop trying to keep b*tches that dont want to be kept.

some sh*t is unacceptable.

if it aint about a dollar it aint about me neither..... I was off that for a minute, but im back on it with a vengeance

twitter and skype has saved my sanity. keeps me  connected to the one stud that i dont think is in any way full of sh*t, with the shit, on that bullsh*t, or ratchet. cuz this damn blackberry is a piece of crap.

i'm getting married next year.

*STAR*

Will Gays Go to Heaven?

That was the title of an article I read today in the May 3rd issue of Jet magazine. It was written by Bishop George Bloomer. Bloomer is currently the pastor of Bethel Family Worship Center ( bethelfamily.org ) in Durham, N.C.  
In the article Bloomer expresses that he hates how people who consider themselves homosexual have left the church because they felt all they were receiving was judgment rather than any type of spiritual guidance.He states that, "If we believe anything about what the good book says about heaven, it's a happy place that NONE of us really deserves. No matter how you classify yourself, you had better depend on God's mercy instead of your inherent goodness." I thought that was super heavy. It makes perfect sense, but as we are all aware, common sense ain't common. The Bishop goes on to say, "Is homosexuality an unforgivable sin? No. The only unforgivable transgression is to smugly refuse to bow down before your Creator. That arrogance certainly isn't limited to any particular sexual orientation, nor to any particular kind of sin."

This article opened my eyes in a couple of ways. I wasn't aware that there was a such thing as an unforgivable sin. I also wasn't aware that there was a Bishop out there with the good sense in a grape to understand all of this. Sorry.  After reading the article I did a little research on Bishop George and came across this lovely little hate filled in the name of Jesus blog>>> exministries.wordpress.com Beybey, they where non too pleased with the good Bishop's stance  (or in their eyes, lack thereof) on the subject. But I'm not the least bit surprised by that. It did my little lesbian heart good to read this article. My mind is generally blown on a daily basis by the amount of hate and ignorance that I encounter all dressed up as religion. Thankfully, there are some who have not drank the group think kool-aid and will stand up for what should be plain, clear, and obvious to everyone.


We are all the same filthy rag before HIM.Get over yourselves...


Good Day
*STAR*

WAIT, WHAT THE HELL?! WELL HOW ABOUT THAT?! LOL

OK How about this:
My homegirl (girl A) used to date this chick (girl B). Nothing major, just a quick little fling. They did the do of course, because lesbians CAN NOT keep their hands off one another (LOL).  Anyway, they end up just cool friends. Fast forward. Girl B meets this other chick (girl C), who happens to be SUPER CLOSE with A. B and C don't know this at the time. They start talking and hit it off. Lots in common, good convo, all of that... Then they find out they have that mutual friend in girl A. Yep. Ok so now what? For me its simple. They can be NOTHING more than friends. If you have slept with, or even been to lunch on some "lets check each other out ish" with anyone I consider a real friend, its a wrap. Your ass is and un-dateable and MOST DEFINITELY un-f*ckable. Now had it been just an acquaintance or any other random associate, I would at least give it a second thought, but A and C are BEYOND close. So for me, its a wrap. Its unfortunate too, because from what I can tell, B and C where REALLY where hitting it off. Listening to them talk was so super cute. I could tell it was giving C something she really needed, as she was coming out of a very stressful situation in her life. But OH-THE-HELL-WELL. However, everyone doesn't think like I do(as a matter of fact, NONE of the people I LIKE think like me at all). I know some people are going to say that there are far too few eligible women to allow a good one to slip through your fingers based on some one time fling bs. Or, if the friend was totally cool with it, (which she is) and it only happened once, blah blah blah, go for it...
I can't even do it, nor can I cosign Girl C doing it. This just goes to show once again, how freaking small the black gay community is. Of all the lesbians everywhere, these two find each other and hit it off... SMDH.


Anyway
Input please


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Touch me Not Studs... What.The.Hell?

I know I haven't posted in along time. Technically this applies a locked and loaded post. So here ya go I.C.! Sorry for the delay.


THESE TOUCH ME NOT STUDS CAN GO THE HELL ON!


That is the dumbest ish I have ever heard of in my life. 
Im sorry but it is.


I just saw a video on Youtube where this lesbian couple are discussing the "touch me not" syndrome. 
The femme chick was expressing how she had to kinda coax her stud girlfriend into allowing her to perform the business. The stud chick stated that she had been a a "touch me not" chick for about 8 years. 
*blink blink* no, no, no, just NO.
This b*tch said she hadn't gotten head in 8 years. 8 YEARS???!!!
Hold up, let me tell you one damn thing right now: Let me not get some head in 8 MONTHS, imma be a raging bitch. Hell, even 8 WEEKS and im not gonna be the nicest person either. But 8 YEARS?! GURL BYE... 
You dont even wanna know! 


The other thing that really irked me about this video is that the stud chick was so overly concerned about how she sounded. Her girl said something like "you be calling my name all cute." Stud chick got kinda mad and replied," uh uh, I never call your name like that, u know I use my deep man voice." Like she was overly concerned about maintaining her "masculinity." Who the hell cares if you sound like a dude? You are NOT a dude!Get over yourself! 
Now I understand that there are studs, lots of women period,  that have had terrible things happen to them that cause them not to want to be touched in that way. These are not the ladies that i'm referring to. Im talking about these faking ass imma dude type-a-broads that are so sold on the fantasy of maleness, that they don't want anyone to get at the vajay-jay. It makes no sense.And what if you're in a relationship with someone who genuinely ENJOYS giving head? Thats just not fair to them. I wouldn't last 5 seconds in that one. Sorry.  


Now to be fair, I have to say that these lesbians that don't like penetration confuse me too, but not as much. If you go long enough without wearing your earrings, the hole WILL close. And re-opening that mutha hurts. So, yeah, I kinda get it, kinda not. But anyway, these ratchet ass studs bay bay. A mess.


Enough of this silly sh*t. Im going to bed. 


*Sips Chandon*
And good evening...
Imperial Star

YESSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My girl Chanel over at divasrainbow.blogspot.com posted this the other day. When I read it you would have thought I was at a Baptist church tent revival down in Itabena, MS or something the way I was shouting, honey. Pay special attention to the 3rd point on the list, cuz THATS the one that tells the tale. EVERY TIME.
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MONDAY, MARCH 15, 2010

Cellphones = DRAMA. Nuff said.

No one can stay drama free forever. It's virtually impossible unless you live isolated in a igloo somewhere, and even then you'll have drama cuz it's cold as shit and you'll freeze your ass off. But let me tell you this, and i'm gonna try to keep it short and sweet- if you are in a relationship and you don't know how to act, you're cell phone WILL get you in trouble. Let me break down "not knowin how to act":

- if you have a significant other and you feel the need to send 58678394 text messages every day to someone else BESIDES that significant other...you dont know how to act.

-if you have a significant other and you wait for her to leave the house so you can talk to the NEXT chick on the phone...you don't know how to act.

-if you have a significant other and you cant put the damn cell phone down for a day in fear of missing something...you dont know how to act.

- if you have a significant other and you have mini seizures on the inside everytime she touches or even breathes near your phone...you don't know how to act.

-if you have a significant other and your phone is goin off past midnite from females who ARENT family members or who at least arent dying... you don't know how to act.

There are more but i'm tired and this subject has thoroughly frustrated me for the night so im through. Get it together ladies. Most of us are too old for the bullshit and games. Please know that cell phones = drama so if you're triflin, play it safe and do your shit in PERSON. Cuz if u use the cell, you will get caught. Point blank period.

I need a drink.

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Remember this, rarely are people as stupid as you THINK they are. And patience ALWAYS runs out... I'm gonna leave it at that.

What they really want....

If she's a stud she wants:

a girl who doesn't talk much. Looks like a combo of Amer Rose, Toya Carter, and Alicia Keys. A chick who cooks like Bobby Flay, and cleans the floors on her hands and knees. She can't have too much game of her own and not  alot of hustle. MUST have a GREAT job, plenty money in  the bank and the amazing ability to always get some more. Needs to have some street in her, but never use it because that implies that she's a hustler, and as previously stated, thats a no-no.Oh, and she doesn't need to know a lot of people outside of the friends that they share together. Intelligence is cool, but smart will do. Just so long as she's not a dumbass, but she aint gotta talk much anyway. And she must, without a doubt, be the worlds greatest freak in bed. This is non-negotiable.

If she's a stem/soft stud/femme aggressive she wants:

A pretty girl. With connections. Drive and a good hustlers spirit are required. Intelligence is a MUST because she has to move in some pretty big time circles and the stem/soft stud/ femme aggressive can not be embaresed. Hopefully she's organized because the stem/soft stud/femme aggressive  is not. She's stuck in two worlds so her girlfriend MUST also work as her personal assistant/organizer/accountant etc. But for this she will be rewarded with all the things that make her happy. Like expensive shoes and purses. Girl must also, of course, be a world class freak in bed... GO figure.

If she's a Femme she wants: 

The two idiots above.... 

LOL

Star

Hyena's have brains! Well I'll be damned! LOL

I get post ideas from the strangest places sometimes.
Anyway...
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What makes you gay? I mean, not did something occur to you in your life to make you become attracted to the same sex. I mean, what is it specifically? Is it the attraction or the act? Let me explain the question.


Would you consider a man gay if he liked for his wife to use a strap on him? Never had any desire to actually be physical with a man. He just enjoyed being penetrated, by his wife, whom he loves dearly.


What about a cross-dressing man who only dates women. No homosexual tendencies, just REALLY enjoys womens clothing and women. Strange I know, but it happens. 


Would you consider either of the people in question gay? Why or why not? 


Let ya girl know...


*Twinkle*

MY PO' LIL NEGLECTED BLOG....

SISTAHSTAR.COM is my pet project. I love it with my whole heart. However, I have been (once again) severely neglecting it. Its not because I'm too busy, or because I don't have anything to post. Its actually just the opposite. There is soooooooo much info floating around for me to write about that I get overwhelmed. I have about 15 half written posts that are just sitting there waiting to be finished a released. Not even gonna say when I'll release them. Either way, Im still here guys. Hope your still here with me...


Love you guys


*STAR*

FOUND THIS WONDERFUL POST OVER AT STUDWITHSWAG.COM

I'M GOING TO NEED FOR YOU RATCHET ASS HYENAS TO READ IT. ITS LONG, BUT ITS

DEFINITELY WORTH IT. As  lesbian who has a less than stellar view of studs, I had to rethink some  things myself after reading this.
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The Rules

Be yourself.

Treat your woman like a treasure.

Stay true and committed to you.

Let me begin by saying that identifying as a more dominant or masculine lesbian has little to do with gender maturity and everything to do with finding our internal comfort zone. Gender maturity is something we usually reach by the time we are firmly planted within that comfort zone and begin to embrace it as our own. Being a Butch/AG/Stud Lesbian in today’s society can be a journey within a journey that we struggle to come to terms with daily. These struggles most often encompass not knowing exactly how to embrace our identity in its infancy. Many young studs struggle with issues relating to self-acceptance, identity and self-esteem. Many others, brought on by age and maturity, no longer concern themselves with how they’re seen and viewed by society. Instead, they are concerned with creating and investing in the physical and emotional growth of the gay and lesbian community as a whole. Included is the reinforcement and awareness of re-defining roles and labels within our culture and the promotion of the positivity within both. A community that often tells us that we’re confused about our gender when for the most part we are not demands that our persistent and respectful enlightenment teach them the opposite.

The Stigma

The label “stud” imparts negative feelings and reactions among many lesbians and primarily heterosexual men. This is due in part by perceptions and misconceptions that lesbians and straight women themselves harbor about what it means to be a stud.

Most of us start out as tomboys and only later in life do we begin to embrace our uniqueness, our masculinity and our differences as lesbians within an ever-expanding, diverse gay culture. Some begin to mimic behavior they feel is reminiscent of society’s view of “typical stud behavior” with the onset of “typical stud mentality” following closely behind. Most of the negative behaviors associated with butch lesbians only begin to manifest themselves after they’ve embraced a particular subset of popular culture and its view of sexuality usually through music and art. To a large degree, most of those embracing these behaviors and attitudes have subsequently forced themselves into a role that seemingly does not fit.

The Realizations

• We realize that every stud or butch lesbian is unique. She is an individual. The diversity among us is staggering. Some studs prefer to sag their pants to the knees and others can rock the hell out of a pair of DKNY’s fitted and resting slightly below the waistline.
• We realize that not every stud will turn down the loving touch and tender embrace of another woman, choosing only to give pleasure in lieu of receiving.
• We realize that there are those of us who are highly educated intellectuals with goals for the future. We will work tirelessly to achieve them through any positive means possible.
• We realize that those who have conquered and won the fight of self-acceptance are no longer restricted by society’s view of our womanhood, our lesbianism, our self worth and our labels.
• We realize that those of us who are comfortable with their bodies and their selves have made it. We are no longer confined to others definitions of who we are and what makes us tick. We no longer feel constrained by the judgment of others because we are our own greatest judge.
• We realize that being a stud may not mean being more masculine for some or being more dominant for others, it is everything to do with being well, You.
• We realize that with everything in this world, there are those whose actions give us a bad name, but we refuse to allow those members of our subset to strictly define us. Society does a good enough job doing that on its own.
• We realize that we are the only ones who hold the power in the meaning of these words, regardless of the attitudes of others and their miss-categorizations.
• We have adopted these labels and only we have the power to redefine.
• Those among us who identify as Studs/AGs/Butches are equals, not adversaries.
• Our outward behavior is often attributed to those who identify with us. As with any community, this will have positive and negative connotations. For studs, the negatives have been outweighing the positives for far too long.
• It’s time for change.

The Summation

As a lesbian who identifies as a woman first, soft-“Stud” second, it is my duty to tear down negative stereotypes relating to my fellow gender-bending lesbians. I feel it my duty to express in the only way I can my outright disappointment at studs who adopt misogynistic attitudes and behaviors and incorporate them into their relationships with other women as the norm. You, yes you, are not only wrong, you are shining a negative light on the rest of it and it’s not appreciated.

Being a stud is not about trying to control someone or collect women as trophies. It encompasses everything having to do with treating a woman like the Queen she is. In return, she will embrace you as the female King of her castle or however you wish to be honored by your woman. She will understand that just because you may at times feel entirely comfortable expressing your masculine side, you are 100% woman and that doesn’t mean you want to be a man nor does it give her license to strip you of your womanhood in the process. There were women kings throughout history that took on roles as leaders of entire nations. There is only pride and respect to be found in fulfilling such a role.

Studs have individual set preferences, but diversity among lesbians more feminine than us or androgynous must be respected and embraced in turn. We must not try to set standards upon non-butch identified lesbians in any limiting manner that makes light of her individuality, her appearance, behaviors or attitudes just because of our rigid and faulty nuances. This form of polarization is an unacceptable breeding ground for negativity. We must respect that lesbians who are more feminine than us are just as diverse and hold a very important role in our culture and society. These differences must be honored above all else.

Studs young and old must not allow music culture to dictate and deteriorate their behaviors and actions and the measure of respect they show other women. There is only shame to be felt in the degradation of women, which is often embraced by mainstream music and the youth and adults it inspires.

I’m putting it out there because my sanity depends on it, but thankfully my self worth does not. My ability to co-exist among my gay and lesbian family demands it.

My fellow Studs, AG’s and Butches, we’re done selling ourselves short. We allow those within and outside of our community to define, redefine and ultimately restrict our visibility. The truth is we are about as diverse as a United Nations gathering. We form a powerful cohesive within the lesbian community and our time to shine is now.

We are:

• Mothers
• Daughters
• Sisters
• Grand Mothers
• Matriarchs
• Pretty Bois.
• Pretty Girls.
• Beautiful.
• Average.
• Tomboys.
• Bisexuals
• Transgenders.
• Amateur & Professional Athletes.
• Entrepreneurs
• Writers
• Artists
• Those in the middle who haven’t yet figured it out.
• And so many more…

We are many and we are diverse as one.

We allow others far too much leverage and power in determining exactly who we are, when we should be doing our self. We have the ability and the POWER to define and redefine masculine womanism, dominant lesbianism, tomboyishness, and androgyny. We make up such a force that this topic deserves to be addressed. We owe it to ourselves to aptly follow through in our pursuit of self-confidence, self-esteem and most importantly self-identity in a society that frowns upon those who appear and who are different. Our identity deserves the same respect as any other, even those choosing to transcend their gender. No longer will we allow ourselves to be thrust into a revolving trend where a word that encompasses so many positives is thought of and seen in a largely negative light. We understand that our definition of “stud” may not jive with how another self-imposed stud sees herself. We must no longer make excuses for immature, irresponsible, misogynistic lesbians who call themselves studs, AGs or butch, but instead we must educate. We are empowered through positivity and we aim to promote growth through change in our community.

There are no strict gender roles no matter how you identify in the gay community. In order to be accepted and appreciated for who you are, my advice to you is to be yourself. The gray areas are limitless.

To be continued as deemed necessary.

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And there you have it...
-Star-

YOU RATCHET N*GGAS MAKE IT VERY EASY TO BE A LESBIAN...

To my LGBT sisters, I pose this question. And I really need help understanding this.


WHY DOES EVERY DUDE SAY THE FOLLOWING:  
"AW YOU AINT LIKE THAT, YOU JUST AINT HAD A REAL MAN YET."
 OR THIS: 
"YOU MUST HAVEN'T HAD ANY GOOD D*CK YET." 


BLANK EFFING STARE


NEGRO,ARE YOU SERIOUS? I AM 30 YEARS OLD!


Do they really believe that in however many years of life a woman has had, she was NEVER involved with a single male that was at least decent in bed?And thats why she is subjecting herself to the added burdens and trials that come with gay life in America? You have got to be kidding me. Are men really that damn dumb or are they really just that hung up on that pitiful mess between their legs. I think its a little bit of both. I tell you what, though, if you think that beautiful lesbian that your talking to hasn't met the "right man" in all this time, please explain to me why the hell you think YOU'RE him. 


Dummie.


GTFOH. 


GO>>>THAT WAY. 




I can't roll my eyes hard enough right now.


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No Time Like The Present (locked and Loaded Lite)

I just wanted to say something....

But I cant remember what it was....

So imma say this instead:

Never say Never

Relationships are difficult, but nothing is more complicated than love

Whoever said money can't by love was out of their damn minds

Gay sh*t goes>>>here

I gots to go.

Starra

The H.N.I.C. trying to piss off as many folks as he can. Now thats gangsta.

Today Obama said once again, "F*ck you ignorant yokels, Im going to hire the best person for the job. And I don't care who they sleep with."

"Now, get the hell outta my office."

Click the link for details...

President Obama Appoints Amanda Simpson, a Transgender Woman, to Commerce Post - Sphere News

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