The great State of Tennessee and DADT/WTF NEWS

http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2010/11/judge-lesbians-military-turn-straight/

This assclown basically belives that gay men should not be allowed in the military, but Lesbians should. That way the good upstanding straight G.I.'s will not be forced to put up with their gay counterparts, but will be given the opportunity to "straighten out" the lesbians. Click the link to find out how he thinks they should go about achieving that momentous feat. 
I absolutely can not.

I Do Not Date...

Here's another oldie but goodie that I wrote a LONG time ago and never published. Just thought I'd share.
I originally wrot ethis around April of this year.
This is some good info people. Pay attention.
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 Lesbians are serial daters... I am not. I am a relationship girl. Lezzies tend to see a chick, bone a chick, move in with or move on to the next chick. That mess baffles me. I think that's one of the things that alienates a lot of straight people from us. Even those that are "sympathetic" to our plight. How fast we switch (or add in some cases) partners. How many times have you seen your friend (associate or whatever) at the club with someone one week, then two weeks later, you see them again with someone totally new? Then you ask them, " hey, what happened to so and so?"
Wait two weeks, and repeat.
Its so silly and, more importantly, its dangerous. Casual hookups in a community that doesn't have a a large number of people perpetuates not only a lot of fighting and bullsh*t, but a lot of other stuff you cant get rid of...
We want to be respected and all that then we need to stop acting like the only time were human is when someone straight uses a slur against us. Nobody gets over love in a month/week/day.Stop fronting. Especially you studs.

Short sweet and to the damn point.
*Star*

*RUBS TEMPLES*

No, like for real though... When are we gonna stop doing this shit?

*side note*

Both of them look like they could use a run through the car wash, on high power. 

How babygirl in the back gonna be a strong size 2, with a size 12 beer belly? 

SO many questions.

*sigh*

Miss-Nikki

IF EVER A SONG DESCRIBED MY LAST RELATIONSHIP AND HOW I FEEL RIGHT NOW IN THIS SO-CALLED LIFE OF MINE IT IS THIS ONE. Just be sure to replace "man" with "woman" and you got it.

If ever anyone asks me for my advice about how to make a relationship work all i'm going to say is this: Be friends with your partner first and for most.Trying to become their friend after you become lovers is almost impossible. Be completely comfortable with who YOU are before you join with someone else. You stood on your own 10 toes before them, you can do it again. Ride or chicks need ride or die chicks. Period. Be VERY CLEAR about what is acceptable and what is not. Don't sugar coat sh*t because a weak mind will get preyed upon. Vesace is for sale, LOVE is not, so don't wast your time or your money. Especially when you can afford to buy you own shit. And last but not least, if a person shows you even one time that you are not the one, believe them. Thats all the closure you need.

*sigh*  (Click the sigh, people)



Thanks to a special person who helped me get free.
Thanks even for the unlikely way she helped me clear my mind.
Thanks Dream
Special thanks to the person who didnt try to help put me back together, but instead showed me that I don't need help picking up the pieces. I can do it all by myself.
Thanks Genius


-Still a Star
MissNikki

"If I were a STUD"

I was sitting up listening to my Pandora and Da Creole Qween's (aka Beyonce) song " If I Were a Boy" came on. It made me think of this. Its a REALLY BAD POEM SO PREPARE YOURSELF:
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If I were a stud
even just for one day
I would hop out of the bed throw on some recs and be on my way

I wouldnt chase after girls (cuz im far too fly for that), but i wouldnt tell them about MY girl
it would be all good
cuz while im out with them, i'd have my baby at home cooking dinner for me

If I were a stud
I don't think I would understand
How it feels to have my love in pain
I wouldn't do anything about it
Cuz i know she loves me, and she aint going NOWHERE

If I were a stud
I would lock up my phone
Never answer when my girl is around,
and get mad when she does the same

I'd put myself first, tell her "i just dont see your hurt"
Even when Im looking in her eyes
and she tells me what I did made her feel the absolute worst

If I were a stud I would tell my girl "i don't make you do anything you don't want to." When she says, "after all this mess, im still here"

If I were a stud I'd sip wine (pinky finger up) and ignore her tears.

If I were a stud. I'd read this and get mad.
but who gives a fuck anymore...

If I were a stud, i'd tell my girl "don't no stud wanna be your friend"

If I were a stud, I'd pick a fight, go out of town with my "girls", not call my girl while I'm gone, text her once, come back, still not call her, then say, "well, I didnt think you wanted to talk to me..."

If I were a stud, I would try to smooth over the out of order ass texts to my "friend" in my phone, then act like aint nothing ever happened.

If I were a stud, I would read this and say, "you're pushing me away from you!" or "im a private person."

If I were a stud, I would do something that I knew would hurt you, then tell you, I never do anything to hurt you...

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I wrote this one in March I think. I'm sure it was somewhere around Memorial Day 2010.
Yeah, Bleh...
Anyway
Miss Nikki

The old saying is ABSOLUTELY TRUE.

No one will buy a cow when they are already getting the damn milk for free. EVER. 

LOVE does NOT conquer all. 

Some people would rather be MISERABLE, than be wrong. 

Happy, successful women, think with their heads. Lonely, sad women think with their hearts. 

Fuck That

STAR
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I wrote this in Sept or Oct of last year (2009) just felt like clearing out some old posts that I hadn't let go off. There are more coming...

It gets better babies..

It really does..Thats all.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tKrtARATbE


Nik

In todays WTF news...

I'm sorry, BUT WHAT. THE. FUCK?

Miss Nik (has left the muthafucking building)

1 RECOGNIZE WHAT HAPPENED

    once you accept and believe that it is over, you can start the real healing process. 

2. FEEL (AND ACCEPT) THE ANGER

    let it burn. period. and its gonna burn bad. but deal with it.

3. GET SUPPORT

    call on YOUR friends. not your mutaul friends. just those that are gonna be there and remind you how awesome      you are. cuz we tend to forget this when we get blindsided. 

4. MOURN THE LOSS, BUT DON'T WALLOW IN SELF PITY

    Mourn the person being gone. You loved them, so clearly they where someone very special in your life. but do not   stop living. and stay away from drugs and/alcohol. this will make it all worse.

5. GET CLOSURE

    say whatever it is you feel to that person. if they wont see you or talk to you. write it down and burn it. but get it out.

6. NO REBOUNDS

     DON'T DO IT!!!!!

7. LET IT ALL OUT

    kick, yell, scream, whatever. its extremely therapeutic. 

8. LOOK AT YOURSELF

    dumper or dump-y, it takes 2 to tango. think about what part you played in this. so you don't drag it to you next relationship. 

9. "THAT WHICH DOES NOT KILL US, MAKES US STRONGER"

     remember that tomorrow is another day. and no matter how bad you feel, this will not kill you. 

10.LET GO AND LET GOD...

     self explanatory

Bye...

 STAR

Miss Nikki Chanel

Make up your mind people

I'm Just about as sick of this prop 8 shit as I can be. Under what circumstances can you block hetero's from marrying? NONE! So why do you get to anyones? The US gov't is set up like and equation: whatever you do on one side you must do the exact same on the other. Period. It doesn't take all this legal back and forth to see that this is bullshit.
And Im sick of it.
Wake me when its over
 Star

Awww, somebody likes my lil ol' blog...

SO I GOT NOMINATED. I WON'T WIN, BUT IM EXCITED NONETHELESS. SO VOTE FOR ME! EACH NOMINATION IS A VOTE
HERE'S THE LINK
GET TO IT! LOL

http://www.blackweblogawards.com

THANKS GUYS
STAR

I guess I missed the memo. AKA: Today's what the fuck news...

 
 So not only am I drug addict, I'm a sh*t eater too.
Ya'll don't want me to comment on this... 

¿Adora qué? El coño? chica adiós

DADT is not the biz...

found over at luvvdivine.tumblr.com

The Real L word, Huh? AKA: White privledge on deck.

Showtime has the Hot Nu--Nu for the lesbians. Again. And there's not a brown  face in sight. Again.

I'm so sick of this bullsh*t.

You mean to tell me that there aint not one (yeah you heard me right) brown woman in Los Angeles that would have fit into this cast.

Bullsh*t

MY WISH LIST...

Since I haven't gotten a birthday or Christmas present in 2 years (not including the Mercedes I bought myself), I thought I would put together this little wish list for you all. So listen up lurkers, followers, and anyone else who may want to take pity on me *cue violins*.


1 Christian Louboutin Greissimo Pump size 8.5 9
2 new rims for the new whip (stock only, no hood ish for my baby)
3 amex gift cards (in any amount over $100)
4 target gift cards (in any amount over $30)
5 MAC Book pro
6 purple ipod
7 purple ipod
8 purple ipod
9 purple ipod
10PURPLE F*CKING IPOD

Feel free to start anywhere on the list. 

KAYTHNXBYE


*Twinkle*

HEY HEY HEY

this

thats all

*STAR*

Locked and Loaded... You know u miss it

i am without a doubt, a ride or die girl. but dont do no f*ck sh*t in front of me now that I have kids.

after "the incident" i realized who my associates where. after I healed, i  realized who the wolves in sheep's clothing where. i see you

the woman i treated the absolute worst, is the person who loves me the absolute most. that b*tch is ride or die.

relationships are not for everyone. unfortunately, those people are hella sexy and hella charismatic. and so good in bed.fml

stop trying to keep b*tches that dont want to be kept.

some sh*t is unacceptable.

if it aint about a dollar it aint about me neither..... I was off that for a minute, but im back on it with a vengeance

twitter and skype has saved my sanity. keeps me  connected to the one stud that i dont think is in any way full of sh*t, with the shit, on that bullsh*t, or ratchet. cuz this damn blackberry is a piece of crap.

i'm getting married next year.

*STAR*

Will Gays Go to Heaven?

That was the title of an article I read today in the May 3rd issue of Jet magazine. It was written by Bishop George Bloomer. Bloomer is currently the pastor of Bethel Family Worship Center ( bethelfamily.org ) in Durham, N.C.  
In the article Bloomer expresses that he hates how people who consider themselves homosexual have left the church because they felt all they were receiving was judgment rather than any type of spiritual guidance.He states that, "If we believe anything about what the good book says about heaven, it's a happy place that NONE of us really deserves. No matter how you classify yourself, you had better depend on God's mercy instead of your inherent goodness." I thought that was super heavy. It makes perfect sense, but as we are all aware, common sense ain't common. The Bishop goes on to say, "Is homosexuality an unforgivable sin? No. The only unforgivable transgression is to smugly refuse to bow down before your Creator. That arrogance certainly isn't limited to any particular sexual orientation, nor to any particular kind of sin."

This article opened my eyes in a couple of ways. I wasn't aware that there was a such thing as an unforgivable sin. I also wasn't aware that there was a Bishop out there with the good sense in a grape to understand all of this. Sorry.  After reading the article I did a little research on Bishop George and came across this lovely little hate filled in the name of Jesus blog>>> exministries.wordpress.com Beybey, they where non too pleased with the good Bishop's stance  (or in their eyes, lack thereof) on the subject. But I'm not the least bit surprised by that. It did my little lesbian heart good to read this article. My mind is generally blown on a daily basis by the amount of hate and ignorance that I encounter all dressed up as religion. Thankfully, there are some who have not drank the group think kool-aid and will stand up for what should be plain, clear, and obvious to everyone.


We are all the same filthy rag before HIM.Get over yourselves...


Good Day
*STAR*

WAIT, WHAT THE HELL?! WELL HOW ABOUT THAT?! LOL

OK How about this:
My homegirl (girl A) used to date this chick (girl B). Nothing major, just a quick little fling. They did the do of course, because lesbians CAN NOT keep their hands off one another (LOL).  Anyway, they end up just cool friends. Fast forward. Girl B meets this other chick (girl C), who happens to be SUPER CLOSE with A. B and C don't know this at the time. They start talking and hit it off. Lots in common, good convo, all of that... Then they find out they have that mutual friend in girl A. Yep. Ok so now what? For me its simple. They can be NOTHING more than friends. If you have slept with, or even been to lunch on some "lets check each other out ish" with anyone I consider a real friend, its a wrap. Your ass is and un-dateable and MOST DEFINITELY un-f*ckable. Now had it been just an acquaintance or any other random associate, I would at least give it a second thought, but A and C are BEYOND close. So for me, its a wrap. Its unfortunate too, because from what I can tell, B and C where REALLY where hitting it off. Listening to them talk was so super cute. I could tell it was giving C something she really needed, as she was coming out of a very stressful situation in her life. But OH-THE-HELL-WELL. However, everyone doesn't think like I do(as a matter of fact, NONE of the people I LIKE think like me at all). I know some people are going to say that there are far too few eligible women to allow a good one to slip through your fingers based on some one time fling bs. Or, if the friend was totally cool with it, (which she is) and it only happened once, blah blah blah, go for it...
I can't even do it, nor can I cosign Girl C doing it. This just goes to show once again, how freaking small the black gay community is. Of all the lesbians everywhere, these two find each other and hit it off... SMDH.


Anyway
Input please


*STAR*