YESSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My girl Chanel over at divasrainbow.blogspot.com posted this the other day. When I read it you would have thought I was at a Baptist church tent revival down in Itabena, MS or something the way I was shouting, honey. Pay special attention to the 3rd point on the list, cuz THATS the one that tells the tale. EVERY TIME.
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MONDAY, MARCH 15, 2010

Cellphones = DRAMA. Nuff said.

No one can stay drama free forever. It's virtually impossible unless you live isolated in a igloo somewhere, and even then you'll have drama cuz it's cold as shit and you'll freeze your ass off. But let me tell you this, and i'm gonna try to keep it short and sweet- if you are in a relationship and you don't know how to act, you're cell phone WILL get you in trouble. Let me break down "not knowin how to act":

- if you have a significant other and you feel the need to send 58678394 text messages every day to someone else BESIDES that significant other...you dont know how to act.

-if you have a significant other and you wait for her to leave the house so you can talk to the NEXT chick on the phone...you don't know how to act.

-if you have a significant other and you cant put the damn cell phone down for a day in fear of missing something...you dont know how to act.

- if you have a significant other and you have mini seizures on the inside everytime she touches or even breathes near your phone...you don't know how to act.

-if you have a significant other and your phone is goin off past midnite from females who ARENT family members or who at least arent dying... you don't know how to act.

There are more but i'm tired and this subject has thoroughly frustrated me for the night so im through. Get it together ladies. Most of us are too old for the bullshit and games. Please know that cell phones = drama so if you're triflin, play it safe and do your shit in PERSON. Cuz if u use the cell, you will get caught. Point blank period.

I need a drink.

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Remember this, rarely are people as stupid as you THINK they are. And patience ALWAYS runs out... I'm gonna leave it at that.

What they really want....

If she's a stud she wants:

a girl who doesn't talk much. Looks like a combo of Amer Rose, Toya Carter, and Alicia Keys. A chick who cooks like Bobby Flay, and cleans the floors on her hands and knees. She can't have too much game of her own and not  alot of hustle. MUST have a GREAT job, plenty money in  the bank and the amazing ability to always get some more. Needs to have some street in her, but never use it because that implies that she's a hustler, and as previously stated, thats a no-no.Oh, and she doesn't need to know a lot of people outside of the friends that they share together. Intelligence is cool, but smart will do. Just so long as she's not a dumbass, but she aint gotta talk much anyway. And she must, without a doubt, be the worlds greatest freak in bed. This is non-negotiable.

If she's a stem/soft stud/femme aggressive she wants:

A pretty girl. With connections. Drive and a good hustlers spirit are required. Intelligence is a MUST because she has to move in some pretty big time circles and the stem/soft stud/ femme aggressive can not be embaresed. Hopefully she's organized because the stem/soft stud/femme aggressive  is not. She's stuck in two worlds so her girlfriend MUST also work as her personal assistant/organizer/accountant etc. But for this she will be rewarded with all the things that make her happy. Like expensive shoes and purses. Girl must also, of course, be a world class freak in bed... GO figure.

If she's a Femme she wants: 

The two idiots above.... 

LOL

Star

Hustlin' Backwards: No Beuno

I follow some GREAT blogs. One of my absolute FAVS is absolutebrook.com Brook is a unique personality (at least she seems so from her blog, I don't know her personally). She speaks her mind. A lot of opinions are a slap in the face to conventional beliefs. Ususally she's on some " put the mirror in your face" type-a-stuff, which I just love! Anyhoo, she did a post on a topic that I had been wanting to write about for the last couple of weeks. SEX WITH THE EX. I wanted to do post on this, not because I'm planning on participating, but because sooooo many people do it and end up regretting it in the end. I have discovered in my , ahem, research, that in the LGBT community, we tend to "dip back in" on average around three times before we just walk away. Bad idea. Doing the horizontal mambo with someone that you broke up with a long time ago just confuses any type of future relationship you two may have been able to salvage. Getting it on with someone you JUST broke up with makes it almost impossible for you to really get over and move on from the situation. Especially if you two really had something. Especially if the sex is good. You will NEVER be able to let go of someone that you loved if you keep having sex with them. Lesbians are the worst at this. Women are such emotional creatures and we equate so many things with sex that make it much more than a physical thing. So if ever anyone who reads this takes a piece of advice from this little blog of mine, let it be this: DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH YOUR EX!!! DONT DO IT, BAD IDEA, RUUUUUNNNNNN!!


Consider the reasons that you are not with that person. Did they disrespect you, did you cheat on them, where they dishonest, abusive?  Whatever the reason is, it was strong enough and important enough to at least one of you to make you end the relationship. That should also translate into " you dont desearve this good good" either. P*ssy will never make anyone do anything for too long (except white men). No matter how good it is. Its a bonus, its an extra. People stay with folks that are terrible in bed ALL THE TIME. Don't confuse good sex with good treatment. If it ain't worth being with that person, then it damn sure ain't worth sleeping with that person. I'm just saying... 


Thats all.


*Star*

I'm not stopping...

I got a LOT of comments on my last post about being "Turned Out." All of them came to my blackberry though. After the 10th one I was about to scream. I love ya'll, truly I do, but lets go over this one mo'gin. This is a blog. It is my public forum to the world. Feel free to comment on anything I say on sistahstar.com. Feel free to do it on SISTAHSTAR.COM. I get credit for anything said on here and I get advertising, and its important to me. So the next time I saw something that you find funny/crazy/ interesting/grammatically effed up (which will happen often cuz I blog lit half the time), please click the little link at the bottom that says, 0 comments (or however many comments there may be) and tell the world how you feel. You can even post anonymously, like my beloved girlfriend, (side-eyeing, hmph).
Another thing that I have found out is that I have a lot of supporters who are straight, and because of that they won't join my blog. I have been told by many a straight chick how much they like what i'm saying and how funny they think I am, but they can't follow the purple brick road... Unfortunate. Again, I say you can be anonymous on here. No problem. I just wnat to know that i'm getting through to somebody. If my little blog causes one young "lady' not to fight her friend in the club over their homegirl or stops one young man from leaving home with a rainbow belt/suspenders/earring/ combination, than I will feel like a success.
Ok thats all for now...
Thanks guys
*Star*

Drugs are bad, ummkay...

My home girl used to date this chick that I absolutely can not stand. I mean I detest this person. My friends mean the most to me and ol' girl was wrong out the gate. I am not the type of friend that just rolls with you when you wrong because your my friend either. So the friends ex that I'm referring to was just truly the worst thing ever. Long story short (and because its not my story to tell), the ol' evil wench has reared her tired ass head again.

I said all of that to say this. It takes to two to tango, clearly. However, some people just take comfort in other people's misery. They can not stand to see anyone happy, but themselves and sometimes not even that. Misery loves company and common sense ain't common, but how many times does a person have to show you that 1.they ain't bout shit, 2. they don't mean you and yours any good, and 3. they are miserable and will do their damnedest to make sure somebody(oh hell, you'll do) is just as miserable as they are? How many times does a person have to say: "I don't give a fuck about me, so damn you, but I don't want to be alone in the meantime," before you REALLY cut that water off?

It took me a long time to realize that the worst situation I ever allowed myself to be involved in was just what it was: nothing. My friends watched with absolute horror as I accepted and endured (and eventually partook in) some of the dumbest sh*t ever. But I was comfortable. Once I wasn't comfortable anymore, I got on down. When I really saw it for myself, it was done. Once you've seen it though, and verbalized it and made moves that indicate that you have seen just how re-damn-diculous dealing with leeches really is, how does one justify to themselves sticking around or,worse, going back?

Poison is one of those things that doesn't weaken over time, it gets stronger. The human body does the same thing too, though. The longer you're off crack, the easier it is for you to walk past it and not be affected.

Resist the opportunity by any means necessary to cheapen yourself and blow your sobriety for a quick hit. Cuz that's how ya ass got hooked the first time.

I'm just saying.

*STAR*

I have seen an influx in a particular disease. It appears as though this particular disease is spreading faster than HIV and bitchassness put together( ok maybe not faster than bitchassness). What is this horrid disease, you ask. It is a new affliction known as "Stan-ism."

Stan-ism occurs when the infected decides to consistently stalk, call, follow, tweet, facebook etc. a person who has not only ignored them completely, but made it perfectly clear that they don't want to be bothered. Know let me be clear, I am not talking about fanatical admiration. Fuckkerihilson IS the SHYT, mind you. I mean the type of Stan-ism that causes one to call a person over and over and over again when they haven't responded in any way.Why wouldn't you get the damn hint. If you blow up someones phone and you haven't had a fight with or any real interaction at all with that person, good or bad, why not stop calling. Clearly, they are just not that into you. Oh, and I can promise, the victim of the Stan-ism , is playing all of your voice mails and forwarding all of your texts,tweets,facebook messages to/for all of their friends. You look like a damn fool. Stop now. Save yourself. No one can do it for you. The only cure is a cold turkey cut-off. That's the only way.

I hope this post is helpful to some sad Stan out there. I enjoy being helpful. If you find yourself too weak to go on as you implement your cold-turkey cut off, feel free to email me or leave a comment. I will play some of my old "Stan" mail from my last disaster of a relationship so you see just how big of a fool you are making of yourself. I got some good ones too. Hundreds of them. I doubt that anyone can bear to hear themselves sounding that stupid and pathetic once you've listened to what I have on MY voicemail. Plus I will help you visualize all of the friends and coworkers sitting up listening to you sound like a blubbering idiot as they huddle around laughing at your stupid ass... Whew, you will shake that Stan right off, real quick, promise. That should be all the intervention one should ever need.

Nik

I have found some really interesting stuff over at BET.com, lately. Which is very interesting since that massive show of public buffonery and cooning they called the BET awards forced me to ban all of their niggotry from my home. Since I forgot to end my email subscriptions with them, these little pearls popped up on my Blackberry. I may continue allowing them based soley on the strength of the things I saw on their site today. But I am going to change my update settings. Since I find it highly unlikely that they will be overloading their site with meaningful information,and since I have no interest in the futher exploits of Tiny and Toya, or Drake and Lil Wayne, and since Queen Yance' (Beyonce) is on EVERY CHANNEL ON THE PLANET, well you get my point. I just don't need BET buzzing my blackberry every five minutes. However, here's what I found blogworthy:
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For most people, their only exposure to the gay lifestyle is through the media or word of mouth. Unfortunately, this is how many rumors and stereotypes are spread. Check out some common misconceptions about gays and lesbians.


Being gay is just a phase. Thousands of gay men have sought therapy, "reverse gay counseling" and even heterosexual relationships to suppress their homosexual feelings.


Lesbian women recruit others into their lifestyle. This is not the military. There are plenty lesbians in the world already, so recruitment is not necessary.

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All gay men will die of AIDS.


All lesbians hate men. Granted, even some straight women are sick of men, but this attitude is not a characteristic of all lesbians.


Gay men are all about sex. Here’s a news flash: Gay men are no more sexually active than heterosexuals.

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All lesbians with short haircuts are masculine.


All gay men are feminine. The belief that all gay men desire to be women or are feminine is merely a generalization. The gay community is just as diverse as any other group.


Sex between two women is risk-free. Sexually transmitted infections can be passed between partners of any gender. It is therefore important to practice safe sex with whomever you sleep.


Someone made him gay. Studies have shown that being gay is not directly related to one's environment. Many mothers say they regret having been too close to their sons, believing that is what "made" them gay. The truth is, their relationship with their son had little or nothing at all to do with his sexual orientation. Research continues to explore the source of homosexuality, but blaming oneself or environment is not the answer. Besides, being gay is not a disease.


If a friend tells you that he/she is gay or lesbian, then she/he is coming on to you. Did you ever think that your friend just might want you to get to know him/her as a whole person?


Gays and lesbians are promiscuous. They are no more or less promiscuous than heterosexuals. Just like heterosexuals, gays and lesbians can have monogamous relationships, be celibate or have multiple partners.
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This is just a snippet of the ignorance I have encountered in my Lesbian walk. It amazes me still, how people can associate things that have absolutely no relation to one another. I must say how impressed with BET I am for posting this. It does NOT, however, redeem them even 1/10 of a point. Anyways, think about it people.
later
NIK

Profound...

Some things to think about...

"When we are as angered by the rape and murder of 7 year old Sherrice Iverson, as we are about the murder of Matthew Shepard, we will come together.

"When we are as outraged by the history of this country as we are about the Texas slaying of James Byrd, Jr., we will begin to strategize.

"When we are as intolerant of the deportation of Mexicans from California, their ancestral homeland, as we are about being gay-bashed, we will move forward.

"When we understand that the boss who rapes his employee and the guard who rapes the prisoner and the police officer who rapes the sex-worker, all rape for the same reasons, we will strengthen.

"When we recognize that the people who created the myth of the black male rapist, 130 years ago, are the same people who created today's myth of "criminal" youth, we will no longer be controlled.

"And when we believe that fighting for the human rights of everyone is in our own self-interest, we will begin to create a just society free from hate violence of any kind."

-excerpted from Anne King's speech for San Francisco Women Against Rape, 10/17/98

Comments..

It was recently brought to my attention that a lot of people are unnaware of the fact that you can leave comments on my posts. The comment form is kinda hindden. So, here's how you do it: after each post theres a spot that says how many comments have been made about it. If you click on that, it will show you the comments that have been left, as well as the form for you to leave new comments of your own. Veery simple. If there are anymore question, email me:facegyrl1@yahoo.com

Nik