*RUBS TEMPLES*

No, like for real though... When are we gonna stop doing this shit?

*side note*

Both of them look like they could use a run through the car wash, on high power. 

How babygirl in the back gonna be a strong size 2, with a size 12 beer belly? 

SO many questions.

*sigh*

Miss-Nikki

I shoulda known.

I sent out a text to about 10 or so "family" friends, male and female, asking them to list the top 5 qualities they look for when they first meet a woman. Now my friends are a mixed up bunch, I know, cuz birds of a feather and all that jazz, however, they are also a group of extremely intelligent and driven women. They are studs, femmes and everything in between. I expected to get some interesting answers and post them on my blog. Interestingly, I got almost the exact same answers from just about everyone I asked. I'm realizing that all of this stuff is becoming like some twisted social experiment whereby I get to see how crazy my friends are and, thus, make myself feel better in the process. Anyhoo. On pretty much everyones list was eyes, style, conversation, and or confidence. Basically, we all pretty much want the same thing. Great! That was my suspicion and my real purpose for asking my friends that question in the first place. Then I asked the same question of my straight friends and, you guessed it, same answers across the board. The point of it all is that we are all looking for pretty much the same things. We may look for it in different packages, but the basic are all the same. We are all more alike than different and, I think, if we just took and extra moment to focus on those similarities as much as we focus on the differences, we' all be better off. (singing)Heal the world...

NIK

*SIDENOTE*
There was ONE person who's answers were just totally different than EVERYBODY else's. My dear sweet ex girlfriend. Lawd, bless her heart. Ok, here come my disclaimer...again. NO ONE IS ABOVE BEING BLOGGED ABOUT. PERIOD. So, her responses were looks, skin color, hair, and ass. Ok first of all, I asked for 5, not four, but I'm gonna let that slide, but ass, skin color, and (inhale) hair! Wutdafukk? (Exhale) So if she see a female from behind that just got her sew in redone and has a fat azz, then she's cool. Hell, this is Memphis, she should have a whole team of dogs like that! Please don't think that I'm bashing my ex. We're friends and have a pretty good relationship. We fight about the kid and that's were it stops. So when her text came through, after all of the ohers had ben so insightful and thoughtful, I just sat there giving my phone the *blank stare*, followed by *blink blink*. Then I burst out laughing. I'm still laughing as I sit here typing. Oh the kids...wut iz we gone do?


Nik

THE GREAT DIVIDE

Current TV ( my new favorite station), has been running some really great shows in honor of June being Gay Pride Month. There was one documentary about the "Boi's." There are these women who basically live their lives as men. They look like men, walk and talk like men, of course they dress like men. Thats's not the interesting part, though. The real trip (to me) is how far they are willing to go to perpetuate the stereotype. Now let me say this. This is my blog so everything I say here is my opinion. These are my perspectives. So, I am probably going to offend someone when I say certain things. Now that that's out of the way, here's what I think. I did a blog a while ago about the great divide between the two factions. The caucasion vs. the non white glbt community. Watching that documetary brought it all back to me again. The "boi's" on the documentary were expressing how they felt about their bodies and how it (it being their feminine forms) made life significantly more difficult than it had to be. Most of the women in the show had either had top surgery (cosmetic surgery to remove the breasts), were on "T" (testoterone shots), or a combination of both.

Now I know a lot of Boi's. Generally, every stud I know falls in this category. I do not know anyone, however, that is even remotely considering the possibility of top surgery, or even knows what a testerone shot is all about. I don't even think I know anybody who has ever taped down their boobs or even considered it for that matter.

The more I think about it, the more I start to believe that the great divide is really real. It is a great divide. I asked someone very close to me (a stud) if they would ever consider going forward with either of the options that I saw on that documentary. Her answer was, of course, a flat out NO.

People of color often make fun of just how different the other persuasion really is. As open minded as I am, i'm starting to believe the hype. Being a person of color, moreover, a lesbian of color with friends who are not black, I feel like I have been exposed to so many other things that I would never have even heard of had I just stayed within my community. What's interesting to note is the fact that, with all my open minded-ness and rainbow coalition of friends, I still believe just as my community believes. A lot of the things that non blacks in the family will partake in for the perpetuation of a stereotype are utterly ridiculous and most of us of color wouldn't even give a passing thought. I can' t even fathom a circumstance existing that would make me or any person of color spend upwards of $10,000 cutting off their breasts when there are perfectly good extra small sports bras at Target for less than ten bucks. I would like to have some insight into the mindset that goes along with pumping your body full of a male horman for he sake of having facial hair. I just don't get it. I want to, but I don't. If anyone can help me understand this, please get at me. Cuz I was totally and completely lost after I watched that documentary! Any and all input is welcomed here and GREATLY appreciated. Cuz ya girl is lost. For real.

You betta wurk, b*tch!!

Some Real Jaycettes and Some Not So Real Jaycettes

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We have this phenomenon in the south called the J-cettes(sp?). As a matter of fact, I'm not totally sure that it's just a southern thing anymore. The J-cettes in "real" life are the majorettes from Jackson State University in Jackson,MS. They accompany one of the Baddest bands in the land: The Sonic BOOOOOOM of the South! THEY....GO...HARD...

Anyhoo,

Many of the queens have wanted to be a part of different groups like the Delta's and the Jaycettes their entire life. Because of that, a sort of counter-culture has emerged in the black gay world. There are several groups of boy "Jaycettes" and even pseudo sororities (which I do not condone, by the way). And huney,they do not play around. They have uniforms, and practices, routines, the works. So when pride time rolls around, they pull out all the stops. I managed to get some good picures of the "squads" this time. Enjoy.

Nik

So Extra(did i miss the memo?)

Please, please, please will someone tell me why we gots to act a damn nut all the time? I work in a public place and almost daily, one of "us" comes thru showing they ass! I am truly agitated right now. I just saw tonight's episode of "let's act a damn fool" which included a full reproduction of the routine from Beyonce's Single Ladies video. Really. So I just need to ask this question. Why we gots to be so extra? Ugh!