Drugs are bad, ummkay...

My home girl used to date this chick that I absolutely can not stand. I mean I detest this person. My friends mean the most to me and ol' girl was wrong out the gate. I am not the type of friend that just rolls with you when you wrong because your my friend either. So the friends ex that I'm referring to was just truly the worst thing ever. Long story short (and because its not my story to tell), the ol' evil wench has reared her tired ass head again.

I said all of that to say this. It takes to two to tango, clearly. However, some people just take comfort in other people's misery. They can not stand to see anyone happy, but themselves and sometimes not even that. Misery loves company and common sense ain't common, but how many times does a person have to show you that 1.they ain't bout shit, 2. they don't mean you and yours any good, and 3. they are miserable and will do their damnedest to make sure somebody(oh hell, you'll do) is just as miserable as they are? How many times does a person have to say: "I don't give a fuck about me, so damn you, but I don't want to be alone in the meantime," before you REALLY cut that water off?

It took me a long time to realize that the worst situation I ever allowed myself to be involved in was just what it was: nothing. My friends watched with absolute horror as I accepted and endured (and eventually partook in) some of the dumbest sh*t ever. But I was comfortable. Once I wasn't comfortable anymore, I got on down. When I really saw it for myself, it was done. Once you've seen it though, and verbalized it and made moves that indicate that you have seen just how re-damn-diculous dealing with leeches really is, how does one justify to themselves sticking around or,worse, going back?

Poison is one of those things that doesn't weaken over time, it gets stronger. The human body does the same thing too, though. The longer you're off crack, the easier it is for you to walk past it and not be affected.

Resist the opportunity by any means necessary to cheapen yourself and blow your sobriety for a quick hit. Cuz that's how ya ass got hooked the first time.

I'm just saying.

*STAR*

In Today's WTF...PT.2

This was an the actual message on an actual church sign here in Memphis, Tn. Needless to say, this a controversial "church" (cult), with controversial "leadership" (cult leader). At the New Olivet Baptist Church, they believe in non traditional forms of alter call adn prayer. They blow kisses at the Lord for example. The pastors name is Rev. Dr.Kenneth Whalum. He is an interesting character with very interesting beliefs very devout followers (who have clearly drank the kool-aid). Read the following and let me know if its just me, or if this man and his "parishioners" are with the sh*t.

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News Lesbian Couple Expelled From Kenneth Whalum's Church

Posted by Bianca Phillips on Mon, Aug 24, 2009 at 2:44 PM

In an effort to learn more about mayoral candidate Kenneth Whalum, Yas Meen and Monique Stevens visited the reverend's New Olivet Baptist Church Sunday morning. But they claim the experience resulted verbal attacks and expulsion from the church.
"I had been having political debates with my partner about who to vote for for mayor. I said Whalum was the man to vote for, and she was going for Herenton," Meen says. "We decided to go to [Whalum's] church to see what he was all about."
Meen says many in the congregation were giving them dirty looks as soon as they sat down. But she says the real trouble started when the women — who are both agnostic — opted out of a "sanctified dance" that supposedly involved congregants dancing in the aisles, laying on the floor to pray, and blowing kisses to God.
"People were telling us we needed to blow kisses, and I said, I don't communicate with my higher power like that," says Meen, who admitted to feeling uncomfortable with New Olivet's unique style of worship. She said Whalum directly called them out for not participating.

Later, when Stevens placed her arm around Meen, the women claim a security guard asked the two to leave the church. He said he'd already called the police. The women allege that a group of about 25 young men pushed them out of the church while others taunted them with calls of "demon" and "devil worshipper." Stevens' glasses were broken and she suffered scratches and bruises.
"I was there to support him as mayor, but he won't be getting my vote now," Meen says. "If he's going to act like that in church, how will he act in front of [the citizens of Memphis]?"
Whalum was not immediately available for comment, but if he does return Flyer phone calls, we'll be certain to update the story at that time.
According to the New Olivet's website, the church offers "compassion and refuge, reaching out to a lost and hurting world that needs salvation and purpose."

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I'm from Memphis, Tn. Everyone here who is isnt a member of New Olivet knows that this is not the church you go to for questions, this is the chuch you go to for theatrics and a Pastor with illusions of granduer. Ok, fine. Dont put ya hands on me. Period. These folks were there because they thought he might be a good candidate for mayor. Umm, yeah, no beauno. A lot of us vote, ya kow. This is a local election. One that is not at all concerned with GLBT issues. Whalum just put himself in the line of fire. Not because he heads a unique church and not because he thinks (or wants to believe) that he's the Jay-Z of the pullpit, but because of what he, as a "Christian"man, sat back and allowed to happen. Its very simple.

"Jesus said bring me that ass", alright. He'll have yours on a plate one day...Pastor.

Good Day, Candidate.

*STAR*

Found at memphisflyer.com

In Today's WTF News...PT. 1

Looks like the Tastee Diner messed with the wrong lesbians when they booted Aiyi’nah Ford and her partner Torian Brown from their restaurant at 2 a.m. on August 12th for embracing at the counter while waiting to give their waitress her tip. The Washington Blade reports, Ford and Brown were asked to “please take that outside,” by the diner’s manager. Ford then questioned whether the manager, identified as Paul, was serious in his request for them to leave. Paul said that he was serious, even as Ford pointed out a straight couple blatantly kissing in a nearby booth and wasn’t asked to leave the establishment. According to Ford, Paul “proceeded to say that this was a family establishment and that people are trying to eat, as though our embrace would make someone sick.”
Ford and Brown’s waitress then followed them outside to apologize and informed the couple incidents like this have happened before. Ford and Brown decided to take action and planned a “kiss-in” type protest to take place on Wednesday, August 19th. Ford, who is also a blog radio host, announced the protest details on her show. The protest consisted of the group eating, paying for their meals, and then engaging in an embrace by the counter. Twenty-five (25) supporters and local media showed up for the protest. Ford told the Blade, “when we arrived, they asked us to sit in the back. [The discrimination] is blatant, and they don’t even know what they’re doing. It’s tragic and sad.”
The protest went off without incident. Ford vows to continue to pursue her complaint with the Maryland Commission on Human Relations. As a result of this incident, Ford says, “we’ll be visible. That’s what’s gonna come from this at this point. That’s what we feel is best.”
Who else is pumping their fist for these ladies taking a stand? We know we are.
Tastee’s manager Laura Wilkes , spoke to media on camera and stated, “Tastee Diner is a family restaurant. And it doesn’t matter if you’re straight or if you’re gay. If you start going beyond the point of kissing and things start getting x-rated, we’re going to ask you to stop.”
X-rated? Hmmm. From the footage we saw, the encounter between Ford and Brown was hardly x-rated. But, we’ll allow you to be the judge.
In response to all this media attention, surveillance video from Tastee Diner was posted online to show the Ford and Brown embrace that took place on August 12th. ___________________________________________________

*This was found at BLACKGAYGOSSIP.COM I am still working on my feeds so I have to do this manually to make sure I'm crediting my peers correctly.*

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I'm so sick of this type of bullsh*t I don't know what to do...

*STAR*

techno-dummy

This morning I finally headed over to Twitterfeed to get my links and RSS game up and it was an #EPICFAIL (twitter junkies like myself will get that one). So I just have to add that to the LONG list of stuff that I'm gonna have my boy B Warren (memphix.com) handle for me. Hopefully I can make time for all of this soon. Actually, if my lovesprung ass big sister would come up for air long enough to finish my logo, maybe I could get cracking. Cuz the one I have is hella-wack. Patience is a virtue they say. Who the hell "they"are, I'm still not sure. I want my ish up NOW!
Grrrrrrr
Later
A very impatient STAR

AINT NO MUTHA EFFING WAY!!!!!!

Episode #4023 from youknowyoudeadazzwrong.com



*agggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!! NNNNNNooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!*
*NONONONONONONONONONONONONOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!*

YA'LL NOT GONNA BELIEVE THIS SH*T

OH MY GOD I HAVE TO RUN THIS CONVERSATION DOWN FOR SOMEONE OTHER THAN MYSLEF TO HEAR!!! THESE LITTLE BOYS ARE FILARIOUS!!!

Here's the background. I have my 6 year old son, my 5 year old nephew, and my 7 and 5 year old cousins (who are brothers and think they're my nephews) over here with me right now. The 7 year old is a certified genius. My nephew is a bad ass. He's the little boy Katt Williams is talking about in the Pimpin Pimpin, pills and all. He's that bad. Anyways, here's what happened.

7yr old to bad ass nephew: dude, you need to chill.
Bad ass nephew: im not gonna be ya'lls friends anymore and i'm not gonna be (my sons) twin anymore!!!
7yr old: Bruh, ya'll wasn't twins in the first place! He's 6, your 5. He's tall, you're short. Get over it man.
My son and the other 5 yr old(semi nephew): Bwaaaahaaaaaa haaahahahahaaaa lol lol lol lol hahahahahahahah
Nephew: boooooohoooo tears tears tears snot sniff etc....
Me: did you just say "bruh?" bwwwwwwwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!

Clearly my nephews meds are wearing off. I AM CRYING LAUGHING @ THESE KIDS RIGHT NOW.

STAR

*update* by the time I finished typing the original part of this post, the 7 year old was over there patting the Bad ass nephew ont eh back saying. Dud, its ok, stop crying. your life is not over...
I am about to laugh up the 1.5 lungs that I have left.

GOT SUGAR, BUT NO KOOL-AID

I got my new laptop!!! Yay! Then I broke the cd so I can't download my broadband card to the damn thing. BOOOO

Nik

AND to top THAT I am having a sleepover for my sons birthday nadn when I say I will NEVER, EVER, EVER allow thsi many 5-7 year old boys in my house @one time again in life. I feel like Im losing my damn mind. Whosaa aint gonna get it this time. Jesus take the wheel!

Falling Star

BAD GYRL ALERT (Locked and Loaded)

When people do things that piss other people off, why do they get made at the responses that follow? I mean really. Lets say you're dating someone. Then you do something that tells the person you're dating that you don't really believe in them or what they have shown you. Is it fair for you to get mad at that person for moving on. I dont think so.

How is it that wine can taste like Sprite, but get you drunk like Patron?

I hate two faced people, but I am a magnet for they ass, sh*t.

Did anyone see Anita Baker on the BET tribute to Mary J. Blige? I have two words: Cougar and Smash

My 2 cousins are preggers, my good friend is preggers. They wonder why I don't drink the water @ they houses. Really

My son jacked up another kid @ school today. So his ass will be getting jacked up @home tonight.

Michell Obama's eyebrows scare the sh*t out of me.

I am officially sending out exclusive invitations for the SMASH Olympics. The first two invites will be sent to Kim Kardashian and Amber Rose (of course).

There's more wine in the fridge. I gotta get back to the biz.

YEAH!

Star

Locked and Loaded

Yep, i'm reloaded. Here we go.

What happpend to sitcomes? Everything is reality T.V. now. Most of it sucks.

LilDuvall said: I bet the real housewives of New York and Orange County looking @ the real housewives of Atlanta like, "who are these broke bitches?"

Long distance relationships suck.

Thanks for everything, Whiteface. You are the best.

I need a new a new gay BOYfriend.

Drake looks like he's a couple cromosomes short of a full deck.

Lil Wayne gotta have the most potent sperm in the world.

I know i'm a great makeup artist. Do not question my skills just cuz YOU dont look like Halle Berry when i'm done. My skills are the bomb. You need to change you perceptions.

If a person tells or shows you they're crazy, take them for their word. I didn't, and I ended up in intensive care for a week.

Watch out, cuz I will turn your tacky ass in to youknowyoudeadazzwrong.com with the quickness. Wut up Mo?!

I. AM. LIT.

LATER
STAR

#BIG ASS BLUBERRY FAIL!!!!!

-I tried to do this as a link to youknowyoudeadazzwrong.com , but technology wasn't on my side with this one. Make sure you mosey on over there to see the comments and what not about the above hot ass mess.
-Now for my thoughts on the um, matter.

There is an epidemic in the black lesbian community. It will henceforth be known as the "Big, Tacky Ass, Old Head Stud Situation." Why are there so many big ass studs that dress like this? Why are they almost always over age 35. Clearly I missed the memo on how and why it's cool to dress like the ringmaster @ the damn Universoul Circus! I think a triple B is in order here: Boo, Bitch, Bye!
Now, be clear that I am not picking on the poor, heavyset, misguided fashion murderer above. Well not specifically. I am picking on the group that she belongs to. If you are a black lesbian, you can't honestly tell me that you haven't seen a real life member of this club and thought (or said) why is she wearing those royal blue dickie shorts and that damn yellow and blue tall tee? Why doesn't she get a better bra? WHYYYYYYYYYY???!!!!
It isn't going to stop. It probably will continue to get worse. So I guess I'm just going to have to suffer in silence on this one.
Yeah right! Every time I see this mess I will be laughing hard and loud. Hey, if you got the "nuts" to dress like that in public, then you outta have the wherewithal to handle being looked at like the science fair project you are. Period.
Yeah I said it... What?

You Know You Dead Azz Wrong!!!: Episode #3958 - You Tube Clip Of The Day

You Know You Dead Azz Wrong!!!: Episode #3958 - You Tube Clip Of The Day

*DIES*

Nik

PATIENCE

Coming back soon....

I promise

Nik

I've been praying/meditating a lot more lately. I'm, a very spiritual person in general, but I had been feeling sort of removed since I got out of the hospital. Most people have just the opposite thing happen, but I'm unique(read: weird). So in the last few weeks, I have been actively trying to open my ears and really listen to what God has to say to me. When you have so much going on, sometimes you tune into the millions of unimportant things, and the really quiet important stuff gets sort of drowned out. Well when I stopped to listen, as usual, there He was. Speaking in the quite manner that He does. You know what He said to me? "you think you're bad, well you and I both KNOW that I'm bad."

Got it. Heard loud and clear.

Peace.
Nik

Tweet, tweet, effing tweet

oh yeah, follow me on twitter:

@sistahstar
and my homegirl
@missconvopiece (that gyrl got stans coming from every direction) lol
nik

I have seen an influx in a particular disease. It appears as though this particular disease is spreading faster than HIV and bitchassness put together( ok maybe not faster than bitchassness). What is this horrid disease, you ask. It is a new affliction known as "Stan-ism."

Stan-ism occurs when the infected decides to consistently stalk, call, follow, tweet, facebook etc. a person who has not only ignored them completely, but made it perfectly clear that they don't want to be bothered. Know let me be clear, I am not talking about fanatical admiration. Fuckkerihilson IS the SHYT, mind you. I mean the type of Stan-ism that causes one to call a person over and over and over again when they haven't responded in any way.Why wouldn't you get the damn hint. If you blow up someones phone and you haven't had a fight with or any real interaction at all with that person, good or bad, why not stop calling. Clearly, they are just not that into you. Oh, and I can promise, the victim of the Stan-ism , is playing all of your voice mails and forwarding all of your texts,tweets,facebook messages to/for all of their friends. You look like a damn fool. Stop now. Save yourself. No one can do it for you. The only cure is a cold turkey cut-off. That's the only way.

I hope this post is helpful to some sad Stan out there. I enjoy being helpful. If you find yourself too weak to go on as you implement your cold-turkey cut off, feel free to email me or leave a comment. I will play some of my old "Stan" mail from my last disaster of a relationship so you see just how big of a fool you are making of yourself. I got some good ones too. Hundreds of them. I doubt that anyone can bear to hear themselves sounding that stupid and pathetic once you've listened to what I have on MY voicemail. Plus I will help you visualize all of the friends and coworkers sitting up listening to you sound like a blubbering idiot as they huddle around laughing at your stupid ass... Whew, you will shake that Stan right off, real quick, promise. That should be all the intervention one should ever need.

Nik

THIS JUST IN!!!

Whiteface, aka my girl Kattie, is out of the hospital and doing well. Now she can get back to what she does best. Making money and getting on my nerves. All is right with the world.

Nik